Why would I want to write about sex on the Internet?
Let me start by tackling the first part of the question: Why would I want to write about sex?
For me, sex and storytelling go hand-in-hand. I don’t know why. Maybe a psychologist would have a heyday picking apart my mind, trying to figure that out, but the fact is that it’s a fact; I like sharing my sex stories.
It was only 24 hours after my first sexual act that I recounted the whole thing to a couple of close friends while we sat in a hot tub. And that became a pattern: I would gain a new sexual experience, I turned it into a story, and I would tell someone who was willing to listen.
I’m also a bit of an optimist when it comes to sex. First of all, I try to avoid boring sex, which does fall upon my own shoulders to keep things interesting at times. I’m still working on that, trying to say or do more interesting things in the event of boring sex. Overall, I like to keep my sex worthy of repeating, either physically with the same partner again, or at the very least, repeating it in story form.
Secondly, though, where the optimism truly kicks in, is that I tend to go into my sexual encounters with the thought: “At least if the sex isn’t amazing, it’ll probably make a good story”, and generally I’m promised either mind-blowing sex, or a great story that I can take to my friends.
Also, if I’m being honest with you, the truly amazing sex doesn’t get many chances at a story revival—I like keeping that shit to myself; nice little sexy secrets. However, great sex tactics get discovered during great sex (and masturbation), and I definitely do not keep those secret. I love dishing out my sex science and sex tips!
So this whole blogging endeavor is definitely not just me sharing my hilariously embarrassing stories (but that will happen). That’s simply the start of how I came to enjoy discussing sex-related topics, and it’s a pretty big part of who I am.
Typically, I only talk about sex with friends, in spaces away from people who aren’t welcome to these conversations, so it creates a getaway from society a bit—where sex can be discussed uncensored, and without judgement. Sharing sex stories can open people up for honesty. It can help us all feel less isolated in our experiences, thoughts, and preferences. Some of my stories have morals, even. Not to mention some stories just elicit laughter and sometimes that’s really what we all need. What’s better than all of that?
So why am I bringing this part of my life to the Internet?
Well, because I feel like it, honestly.
Aside from sharing my stories about penises and masturbation at house parties, I do actually write about my sexcapades as well. Nothing fancy, just personal journal entries and creative non-fiction (and really long text messages, if you want to include those). I just thought it was time for a bigger audience than my personal circle.
More than that, though, are the many conversations happening online and in the world surrounding various sex topics, and I want to be included.
In university, I hardly ever speak in class—I’m super shy. I feel that my opinions and thoughts are never worthy, and my questions aren’t good enough. But recently I took one single class about sex, and I spoke more during those lectures than I have in all my other classes combined. Sex is clearly a topic I’m passionate about.
And there’s so much to it, too. It’s not just sex! It’s everything there is to do with sex: sex toys, literature, film, masturbation, different communities, porn, etc.. There are so many conversations happening, and it’s not a place where I want to stay sitting in my room, wielding a dildo, and watching passively. I’m going to grab my dildo, and join in on the fun.
So here I stand, with my sex blog, and I’m super stoked.